THE BIG DAY

the-big-day“The BIG day” is rapidly approaching for me and things are reaching critical mass.  The planning stage is complete and the follow through takes up every spare moment.  It really seems so far away until the last month. Weddings are a bit strange. A day to celebrate your promise to commit yourself to your partner… but really you already have committed… or at least you should have if you are planning to be legally bound to that person.  And it’s your big day…but really is it yours or do you share it?  It occurred to me fairly early on in the planning process that a wedding is a gift that the bride and groom, and their families, share with each other and their guests.  It can be a bit confusing, and whether you are doing things to please yourself or to please others gets a bit convoluted.  About a year back, my friend Kristin gave me a bit of advice that I didn’t really understand at the time, but I do now, “Don’t get sucked into it.”  When you are planning to get married there is a lot of influence, both positive and negative, but influence either way.  It’s easy to get pulled into thinking that you need to do things a certain way, or that things have to look a particular way.  It’s easy to get sucked into feeling stressed that one of your intended guests did not like the way you handled this or that.  It’s hard to remember that nothing in life is perfect and that no matter what happens, all that REALLY matters is that you are marrying the love of your life.  But the pressure is real and it’s there, and unfortunately for whatever reason a lot of that pressure is pin pointed on the bride.  People ask for my opinion and some want to hear it, others want to hear mine so that they can give me theirs, and when I don’t follow theirs… BRIDEZILLA!!!! Really? I am stressed enough trying to plan an amazing night for everyone, and trying to, in my case, please over 200 people simultaneously and your idea of helping is turning me into an ugly green monster? Thanks…. For me the stumbling block seems to be the etiquette portion of things. How and when things must be handled or addressed so as not to offend anyone.  I like to think of myself as a kind person, but I am no Emily Post, so I find myself fretting over the obligatory niceties. After a while the white wedding seems to become a bit of a black hole until I remember those wise words, “Don’t get sucked in to it.” It’s one day. One wonderful day. Do the best you can and it will be  more than good enough for the people that really love you. The more you get sucked in, the less you can enjoy.  In the end everyone gives their opinion and wants to be involved because they care.  The good intentions are there even if they aren’t expressed appropriately.  In the end, the most beautiful part of any wedding is the display of love from family members and friends, and the love of the bride and the groom. If the love is pure, the rest is just icing.  I am going to do my best to enjoy every last moment of this final month.  I am going to take a little hiatus from my blog so that I can focus more of my energy towards soaking up every moment of the final stages… after all, I am only going to do this once and the journey should be cherished. See you again before Thailand….xoxo

 

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Spring nights in the city

CN-1Coming home from work lately has been a lot more exciting since the sun is setting later in the evening.  It’s nice to see my neighborhood in daylight.  I love freshening up and heading out to dinner, walking down the streets deciding what I am in the mood for.  Floral pants and a bright emerald vintage coat are just right for an urban spring evening.  Comfortable and chic enough to head out for a cocktail to shake off the stresses of the day.
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Spring has Sprung

1. EZYBZY-4It’s officially Spring which means Summer is not far off!!! I can’t wait! The weather is getting better, the days are getting longer, and best of all I am starting to get back into my Summer wardrobe. I always hear people excited for Fall because of the clothes, I am the exact opposite. I live for light weight fabrics, shorts, flowing silhouettes, and of course bikinis. Sunday was such a beautiful warm day that I was able to start a little early.  A vintage slip with pretty details and a simple slub tee with hi-lo hem with some vintage inspired sling backs was perfect for a day of brunch and art exhibits.  The shape of the tee modernizes the look of the slip and shoes. The turquoise peep toes add a pop of color and fun to the soft pastel skirt and ivory tee.   Earlier in the weekend I discovered little heat set hair charms.  The charms are easily set with a flat iron and the iridescent stars and hearts add a bit of youth and whimsy.  I am sure I will be using more of them over the Summer. Find some sparkle of your own at http://www.haircharmsies.com/ 
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WOODEN YOU LIKE TO KNOW?

1.WR-3There is a strange little arcade on Broadway that Eloy never fails to point out when we pass. It’s a bit creepy, but intriguing. Who can resist getting their fortune told by Zoltar? Eloy looked perfectly out of place with his dressed up casual look in front of the arcade lights. A Neoprene Zip up, botanical print tee, dark rinse Big Star denim, and Oxblood Nike Roshe Run make for a put together outfit for a Spring evening. Eloy has a way of being dressed up while wearing casual clothing that I admire.  Fit plays a big factor in making casual appear more than just that.  Baggy can communicate sloppy so he picks a size suitable to his body and visits the tailor often.  He plays up casual looks with colour and pattern choices.  Here his shoes tie back to his tee and the lining of his jacket. Finally, Eloy always accessorizes.  His ring is made of beautiful Hawaiian Koa wood.  The polished wood has a rich color and grain .  The wood is warm and coordinates well with the tropical pattern of his tee. Men’s accessories are a bit challenging.  It’s difficult to find nice pieces that don’t appear too feminine, and others seem cheap and cheesy.  The Koa wood is masculine and elegant, and makes a great gift!

Wearing: Koa Wood Ring Wide (http://www.altinplace.com/), Neoprene Zip Up (Stamp’d), Dark Rinse Denim (Big Star), Botanical Tee (Zara), Nike Roshe Run (Nike.com)

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Thirty, flirty, and thriving

IMG_7377 Tomorrow is the day!!! I finally turn the big 3-0! I have had different reactions/questions from people ranging from, “Are you ready?” to “How do you feel about that?” Truthfully I am happy. Being mentally ready, happy, or excited to turn thirty I suppose all depends on one’s point of view. Turning 30 is no different than any other milestone in life, asking us to take an inventory of our existence.  Are we happy with what we have accomplished? Are we pleased with ourselves at the moment? Are we where we want to be career wise? To be honest I was more stressed out turning sixteen than I am to turn thirty.  Thinking back I was so afraid of the unknown.  I was worried how I would support myself, life sounded really hard to be successful at.  Fourteen years later I feel like I have a better handle on things, there is still the unknown but I am more confident and ready to experience life’s challenges.  One question that I have been asked frequently is, “Do you think you will miss your twenties?” The answer is unequivocally, no. I will remember them fondly, but that chapter is closed and I will not miss them. Why? Most people miss their twenties as they recall the carefree, party-like-a-rock-star life they once lived.  I think there are definitely a few pairs of rose coloured glasses involved here. People don’t remember the other aspects of their twenties like being broke, insecure, and the constant unsettled feeling.  The twenties are a decade of change. My twenties were full of positive change that have put me in place to be amazing in my thirties!  I learned how to live healthy and take care of myself, I feel great physically and I am much less insecure with my body. I have worked hard in my career and I have a job that I love.  I stopped worrying so much about what everyone else was doing which allowed me to move to a neighborhood that I am completely in love with and to get in touch with my own personal style. I feel a sense of liberation turning thirty. I am moving on to a completely new chapter of my life and it feels amazing. Here’s to the next thirty!tumblr_lhwv8nWu5O1qgeinvo1_500 tumblr_mjx5fugNWZ1rwwqtpo1_500

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SUIT YOURSELF

SUIT-7Eloy and I crawled out from the rock we have been living under to make it out to dinner on Sunday night. A navy, body hugging ponte suit was perfect for our date. When it comes to date outfits I rarely reach for pants. I love wearing dresses and skirts because they make me feel pretty and feminine, but a good fitted, cigarette pant like this pair works just as well.  Paired with patterned wedge platforms, a silver sequined aqua top, clutch, and pearl collar the navy suit is dressed to thrill.
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